Wednesday, September 14, 2011

One Basket

Well, now that we've accepted our donor things are moving so fast it seems. We are scheduled to start our 1st DE IVF cycle next Monday! I can't believe it! I thought for sure we would have to wait while our cycles got synched. The weird thing is they are already synched! It feels serendipitous. It was so comforting when I saw my doc this morning because he told hubby and I that we could not have picked a better donor and he thinks it is a great match. We were thrilled! I mean, we didn't really pick her; she sort of fell into our laps. We enjoyed an evening filled with utter excitement about getting started and all the great things that could be to come. Sometimes it's cool when we can still get excited like we used to before all this IF shit, ya know? There is still that small voice in my head that's telling me, "Don't get too excited, this is YOUR body we're talking about here. Something is bound to go wrong." Damn that voice. It's probably right.

I've been thinking a lot about the donor process. We really weren't active participants like many people are when looking for a donor. We just put our names on the anonymous donor list and got a call one fine day when we got matched. I feel very satisfied with not having to look through a database of pictures and profiles of potential donors. I understand that many couples want to be apart of this process, and need to have a say in all of the qualities that their donors possess. As for me, the connection we felt about our donor's profile was so special that we didn't really care about the details of her medical history, or the fact that she isn't my identical twin. We are just so happy that this could actually happen that those details just don't seem important. My family history is nothing to write home about and so why should we place that emphasis on our donor. When hubby and I met I didn't make him fill out a questionnaire about his family history and all that jazz; he didn't have me fill one out either come to think of it. It's a good thing he didn't, what a waste of time that would have been!


  1. Wow, how exciting to get to start so quickly. I look forward to reading your posts about how it goes.

  2. Wishing you luck and I'm your newest follower.

    I'm doing IVF using and egg donor as well. My transfer is set for October so maybe we will be cycle buddies.

  3. I think you sound pretty rational and relaxed and you're putting out some really good positive energy! Just keep shutting down those thoughts that tell you something will go wrong. You can't control whether it works or not anyway, so it is a waste of time to be down on yourself. (I know, easier said than done!!!) Hang in there! I'm glad to have found your blog and I will be sending baby dust to your serendipitous IVF cycle!!! ICLW #7